Comments on: Just Sad http://www.slolane.org/2007/01/26/just-sad/ Blog of central CA coast twin mom Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:42:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Heather http://www.slolane.org/2007/01/26/just-sad/#comment-699 Heather Wed, 31 Jan 2007 22:25:34 +0000 http://builtbymom.com/slolane/?p=265#comment-699 Kudos to you for sharing your ickyness. It's so much easier to blog witty and cheerful posts. I wish I had a good therapist to recommend. I didn't have any luck with the ones I've seen here in SLO (and I ended up getting divorced). BUT I will say this; I'm best friend's with my X now and here is why: we spent time working on ourselves. By getting grounded and centered with our own crap, we built a friendship based on respect and compassion. Why must we be so judgemental and unforgiving of the one we love the most? I have no idea. Lemme know if you figure it out. Kudos to you for sharing your ickyness. It’s so much easier to blog witty and cheerful posts.
I wish I had a good therapist to recommend. I didn’t have any luck with the ones I’ve seen here in SLO (and I ended up getting divorced). BUT I will say this; I’m best friend’s with my X now and here is why: we spent time working on ourselves. By getting grounded and centered with our own crap, we built a friendship based on respect and compassion. Why must we be so judgemental and unforgiving of the one we love the most? I have no idea. Lemme know if you figure it out.

]]> By: Angelea http://www.slolane.org/2007/01/26/just-sad/#comment-698 Angelea Wed, 31 Jan 2007 20:01:19 +0000 http://builtbymom.com/slolane/?p=265#comment-698 If it helps, you helped me. A while ago you mentioned the book Buddhism for Mothers. While I couldn't find a copy to peruse nearby, and I still plan to order it, it provoked a discussion with my philosophy-major nephew who suggested a few of his favorite books on Buddhist-type philosophy. The one I ended up picking up and reading is called The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. I HIGHLY recommend this book. In fact, perhaps it would offer some insight into dealing with your issues w/ your husband. Never has a book so influenced me and changed my overall view of how I perceive life. If not for reading your blog, I don't think I would have had the conversation with my nephew and, well, the rest is history. Good luck and keep writing! If it helps, you helped me. A while ago you mentioned the book Buddhism for Mothers. While I couldn’t find a copy to peruse nearby, and I still plan to order it, it provoked a discussion with my philosophy-major nephew who suggested a few of his favorite books on Buddhist-type philosophy. The one I ended up picking up and reading is called The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. I HIGHLY recommend this book. In fact, perhaps it would offer some insight into dealing with your issues w/ your husband. Never has a book so influenced me and changed my overall view of how I perceive life. If not for reading your blog, I don’t think I would have had the conversation with my nephew and, well, the rest is history. Good luck and keep writing!

]]> By: Angela http://www.slolane.org/2007/01/26/just-sad/#comment-697 Angela Mon, 29 Jan 2007 22:42:02 +0000 http://builtbymom.com/slolane/?p=265#comment-697 Thank you guys. I called the therapist and told him I didn't think it's working, and we may try a different tack next week. The disappointing thing is that this is therapist #2--the first one was just like yours, Cyndi. Nice but totally unhelpful, basically a waste of time. Thanks for the sympathy y'all. I'm going to try to focus on other things for a while, because I'm sure the psychodrama is getting old! Thank you guys. I called the therapist and told him I didn’t think it’s working, and we may try a different tack next week. The disappointing thing is that this is therapist #2–the first one was just like yours, Cyndi. Nice but totally unhelpful, basically a waste of time.

Thanks for the sympathy y’all. I’m going to try to focus on other things for a while, because I’m sure the psychodrama is getting old!

]]> By: cyndi http://www.slolane.org/2007/01/26/just-sad/#comment-696 cyndi Mon, 29 Jan 2007 12:42:46 +0000 http://builtbymom.com/slolane/?p=265#comment-696 *sigh* I understand. We went to a therapist who was a lovely, nice woman.........who would spend half our sessions talking about her and then the other half agreeing with us. It was nice to be affirmed.....it just did nothing to help. We moved to a bona fide phychologist and *knock wood* it's working out better. For us, we needed someone who could say "Let's figure out the problems and then develop a plan to solve them". But yeah.......... *sigh*

I understand. We went to a therapist who was a lovely, nice woman………who would spend half our sessions talking about her and then the other half agreeing with us. It was nice to be affirmed…..it just did nothing to help.

We moved to a bona fide phychologist and *knock wood* it’s working out better. For us, we needed someone who could say “Let’s figure out the problems and then develop a plan to solve them”.

But yeah……….

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.slolane.org/2007/01/26/just-sad/#comment-695 Stephanie Mon, 29 Jan 2007 08:55:25 +0000 http://builtbymom.com/slolane/?p=265#comment-695 So sorry things have been rough. If you need a place to spout, please email me. So sorry things have been rough. If you need a place to spout, please email me.

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