Can We Talk About this ‘No Nap’ Thing?


So I’m shutting down the little business, because it has become increasingly apparent to me that trying to run a business with toddler twins around is like trying to keep Kate Moss away from blow. They girls have decided that even though they clearly still need naps, they’re only going to take them randomly, perhaps a few times a week (if that), and by the end of most days I am so exhausted I can barely see straight. Naps notwithstanding, I’m sure you can imagine how absurd it is to try to conceptualize, design and code entire websites in, like, an hour or less a day. I don’t know what I was even thinking. So since I have decided to stop pretending I don’t need sleep, I will be a little saner, but habitually having to ask the husband for coffee money is going to suck.

On the bright side, I am hoping this means I can get my blogging groove back. One of my goals with that is to speed things up a little. No, make that a lot. I edit things to death, so entires that should take minutes end up taking hours. That’s gotta stop. Another goal is a possible redesign, and maybe working getting the total number of hits a day above my age.

Bigger Than Your Mom In celebration of my complete lack of gainful employment I went to the new Costco they inflated and set down in a field in San Luis, a field that just happens to be owned by the Madonna family (no, not that Madonna). When I arrived the parking lot was so packed I only saw about three open spaces in the entire Disneyland-sized lot. Maybe that had something to do with the gas station around back selling gas for under $3 a gallon. Hmmm. Inside, there were a few things I saw less of in the Santa Maria Costco, like Kate Spade bags (why is a $120 purse a bargain?) and $100 jeans. I heard a retired guy mutter to his wife in outrage, “$100 for a pair of jeans? Jesus Christ.” My feelings exactly. Fortunately my goal was to simply get my sister a set of flannel sheets for her little one. I managed this, and after I walked out the door I realized—DUH—she only needed one set. Buying two of everything is just an automatic reflex. But having two sheet sets is handy, hey. Anyway, in an act of penance for even walking into the place, because Ms. SM I know you’re reading this and about to throw up, I also bought a U-Haul trailer-sized box of maxi pads to donate for hurricane relief. Unfortunately when I got to the donation place there was a scrap of paper on the closed door saying they weren’t taking any more donations. Unless I can find another place taking donations I guess decades from now I’ll be using the last pads as Depends.

I took the long way home through Edna Valley. For non-locals, this is the south part of the county’s wine trail, with dozens of places to get inebriated before lunch. (Incidentally, why 10 to 5? A couple of hours before twin bedtime is precisely the hour I start thinking about killing brain cells). I took a few pictures, and everywhere I went, there was this guy also stopping to take pictures, with a big fatty of an expensive camera. For a while I hoped he’d catch up with me to see my little Flickr sticker on the car. So we could, you know, give each other the Secret Flickr Handsign. But maybe it was just as well he didn’t because the more I thought about his camera and my camera the more I thought the handsign I’d give him would probably be the wrong one.

wall-color.jpgOh, and we painted the bedroom, back when our babysitter was in this country. That’s a very vague and bad approximation there on the right. Depending on the light, it could either be a very light browny suede or a light lavender. I have never been happier with a paint color in my life! I am tempted to paint the entire house with it.

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Tell me about it! Parker stopped napping on the weekends a couple of months back. We’d put him in his crib and listen to him up there talking or singing to himself for an hour or more, then we’d finaly go and get him.

We’ve given up on afternoon naps during the weekend, but he still takes them at daycare. That’s probably becaues everyone else is takign one so he figures he’d better go along.

I think the giant box of maxipads will serve as a reminder of the error of your ways long enough. Heh-heh… Actually, I have a Costco card, thanks to my mom wanting one. At least they are blue and they carry good rechargable batteries. I used to buy film there. I didn’t want them in my town, though. I was happy to buy my film and batteries online. My keyboard doesn’t smell like hot dogs.

Re naps: when they start school they get so exhausted at first that they need a nap again, only they can’t. So it’s a bit sad.

Angela, I tried to email you, but it bounced back. So I thought I’d leave it as a comment. Here it is (feel free to remove it from this post, I won’t be hurt).

Hi, Angela.

I was flattered to see me listed on your site as someone you would like
to see at Blogher (sp?) next year. Wow, I didn’t expect that, thanks!

I hope you don’t mind, I added you to my list. I really need to
reorganize and make a moms of multiples category. When?????

I did try the tylenol, and it seemed to be hit or miss at whether it
worked. She actually has done well with me waiting out her cries. When
I don’t go running in her room, turns out she only cries for less than
a minute. I think she’s one of those babies that fusses in her light
sleep stage and when I hurry into her room, it actually wakes her and
disturbs her more. She’s actually been sleeping better and later since I
stopped picking her up every time she cries. Also, she has not yet
woken-up my boy (knock on wood). I am looking forward to more sleep in
the future…

Kat

John Sage stopped taking naps at around 3 months, except for very, very occasionally.

We compensated by keeping him up until 11 p.m. or so, hoping he would sleep in until noon-ish.

Sometimes it even worked. : )

The New York Times recently published an article called “A Sex Stop on the Way Home.” It profiles a certain innocuous-looking parking lot in the borough of Queens, on the borderline between New York City and its Long Island suburbs, where groups of regular, average-Joe men gather every afternoon to have quick, surreptitious sex with other men in their cars before heading home to their girlfriends, wives and kids. A park regular is quoted as saying,” “I can’t tell you how many guys I’ve had here who were wearing wedding bands, with baby seats in the car and all kinds of kids’ toys on the floor. It’s on their way home and they don’t have to get involved in a relationship or any gay lifestyle or social circles. They don’t even have to buy anyone a drink or be seen in a gay bar. They just tell the wife, ‘Honey, I’ll be home an hour late tonight.’ ”
I’m sure every city has its own cruising spots, and similar gatherings. Because this is a blog on women’s issues, I thought y’all might be interested in reading the article. Here’s the link:
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/09/21/nyregion/21cruise.html

Read it while it’s still free. I think they start charging for it once the article is a week old.

Hi Angela-sorry to hear about shutting the business I haven’t made progress on my website project for similiar reasons. Just keep repeating to yourself :
two doesn’t last forever.